Forgiveness requires metanoia, Greek for change of mind. (Mt. 4:17). Metanoeite is to change one's mind, i.e., in the mind of Christ. See Phil. 2:5: "Make the mind of Christ your own."
Refer also to Rom. 12:2: "…transformed by the renewal of mind".
To repent is to change one's mind.
Our natural temperament is but natural; it's our personality type. But it can be molded into character. That's what education is for. Someone who is mapusok, for example, can be molded into a good leader because it means he can decide in short notice without relying on others.
Repentance is a continuous process. Don't be too hard on yourself.
What is the mind of Christ or the nature of Christ anyway? Refer to Mt. 11:28-29: "Come to me all who labor and I will give you rest,… for I am meek and humble of heart.." Meek means gentle. Meekness requires strength.
"If your brother has anything against you,…be reconciled with your brother." - This means you have done something wrong against your brother. "The road going to God passes by your neighbor's house" so you better be in good terms with your neighbor. Forgiveness requires meekness and humility.
Forgiveness is not ritualism or formalism, puro porma lang. If you have wronged someone, settle with your opponent. If you are the one wronged, make an effort to forgive. Huwag itanim ang galit at siguradong tutubo ito.
In cases involving deep wounds, though, don't be too harsh on yourself. Give yourself time to heal. God sees through your heart's intention. You may choose not to talk anymore to the one you have forgiven, but at least, try not to remember!
Q: Is that possible?
A: You bet. It takes a lot to remember.
In confession, ask the priest not just to give absolution but also to pray for healing (of bad memories and deep wounds)
Q: After the prodigal son decides to come back to his father and recites all his evil deeds, what did he say next? What did his father say next?
A: None. The father didn't even let his son finish. The next scene is, he now talks to the servants to prepare a feast for his son's return.
If you have asked forgiveness but was denied of it, it's no longer your problem.
You can forgive and refuse to treat the person like before. It's your choice. What's important is you have forgiven from your heart.
If your need to burn the reminders of your past hurts, then do so. The devil uses these reminders to hone our resentments into a burning flame.
Discipline means "a way of living"; comes from the word disciple.
St. Jerome: "Ignorance of Scripture is ignorance of Christ."
On the Golden Rule (Mt. 7:12). Note that it is positive not negative: "Do unto others…" instead of "Do not do unto others…"
The Jews took care not to mention the name of God (Second Commandment) so they devised a means to restate things: hence, the 'theological passive form of sentence.
Ex.: "You will not be relieved of your sentence until you have paid up to the last penny."
Contrast this to "Amen, I say to you…."
Amen is a Hebrew word meaning "that's true/strong/sticks/stays." It is from aman<, to be firm or strong. Truth is something that remains the same. It comes from the Hebrew word emuna - "That's truth/stays/immutable"
Hebrew has no vowels. Traditional Hebrew words are triliteral (composed of three letters/consonants).
"To believe" in Hebrew is he emin. It means 'to be strengthened by the words you are clinging on to.' It is also the definition of faith.